Modesty isn’t Shame


            What is the definition of modesty? I looked it up today. My dictionary claimed that modesty is humble, reserved, meek, and simple in dress.

               But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.     1 Peter 3:4

I enjoy watching a show on TLC called Say Yes to the Dress. It’s reality, and it shows women coming into their store to choose a wedding dress. I don’t watch it all the time, just occasionally, but I recall one episode that really stuck out to me.

A lady comes in with a few friends and family, and she shares that she had recently completed a weight loss program. She looks around the store at the dresses, and one employee begins encouraging her to wear a more revealing dress than she felt comfortable wearing. I don’t remember her exact words, but the employee’s basic message was, “You look great! You need to show confidence in yourself and in your body. This dress will help you show everyone that you are no longer ashamed of your shape!”

        This employee assumed that since her customer wanted a modest dress, than she was still holding on to insecurities about herself. While this could be true, the lady held her ground about wearing a decent dress. I didn’t think she was embarrassed about herself. To me, she certainly wasn’t giving that message. So why did this employee assume that she was showing confidence if she wore an immodest dress, and she was showing insecurity is she chose to wear the modest dress?

           Some people will tend to wear more covering clothes if they are not comfortable with themselves, but I’m talking about women, such as the one at the store, who are completely comfortable with themselves and who they are in Christ Jesus. Their personal conviction to dress modestly. It struck that employee dumb-found to her customer’s quiet strength in that area.

          Christians who dress modestly don’t do it because they are “not confident in themselves.” Dressing modestly does not show weakness, insecurity, or embarrassment. Rather it is because we are commanded in the Bible more than once to cover and to point to the Lord. It is for our own protection that we dress modestly.

          So the Bible and even the dictionary will come to the same answer with the definition of modesty. Yet the world says otherwise.

           And be not conformed to this world: but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.   Romans 12:2

         Thanks so much, everyone, for stopping by and I hope that you have a lovely weekend. : ) Blessings!


22 thoughts on “Modesty isn’t Shame

  1. This is a great point. People are definitely encouraged to bare more once they have lost weight and to show off if they already have a good figure. It is sad that it is so common for women to be really revealing on their wedding day, which should be about the sacred union of husband and wife, and not showing off your cleavage!


    1. Say Yes to the Dress is a good show! : ) I understand why you don’t have TV. We got rid of ours for a while before getting it back, but I completely respect those who choose not to have it. : ) Blessings!


      1. Ugh!! Just caught my typo “When we” SORRY!!

        It is hard going home without HGTV 🙂 We do T.V shows and Netflix though 🙂


  2. Great post! Most of the world definitely doesn’t understand the desire to be modest, but it is so important we follow the Lord’s leading in this. Pleasing Him should always be our goal. Thanks for sharing, visiting through Grace and Truth link up.


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