I used to keep up with what my friends and followers were pinning on Pinterest. I don’t so much anymore, mainly because of time. While I would scroll through the boards, I noticed a common theme. Lots of girls I knew who were all teenagers; single, young, and with NO future marriages in sight had future wedding boards. I was a little confused.
Now, I’m sure that some if not most of these girls simply thought it was a fun thing to do. I get that. Pinterest has a TON of wedding ideas, dress ideas, venue ideas… but why spend your time pinning hundreds and hundreds of future wedding pictures when you’re only 14-15 and have no plans of marrying soon?
Here are a list of questions you can ask yourself to determine if planning your wedding is a good thing for you now or if it does you more harm than good.
Is It A Waste Of Time?
Pinterest can be really useful for a lot of things. Recipes, diy, crafts, any trade you can think of, it’s on Pinterest! There’s also a lot of content that’s just for fun. Planning your wedding years before it would happen falls under that category.
That being said, there’s nothing wrong with having fun Pinterest boards. Not at all! The potential problem lies with what is fun for you.
Having wedding Pinterest boards isn’t inherently wrong. But is it distracting you from more important things?
Would Any Of This Be Useful In Years To Come?
Years later, when your wedding day does happen, I’m going to think that your style and taste has probably changed a little! What you planned when you were 14 may not be what you want anymore. You grew up and changed. You could very possibly like the same things, but I’m sure that you could have very different ideas of what you would want for your wedding.
Am I Too Young To Be Married?
If so… then why worry about it so much? Picking out flowers, choosing bridesmaid dresses, thinking about colors, why is this not completely silly if you’re not engaged?
A lot of girls do get married. You most likely will. But it’s not in God’s plan for you right now. He has a plan for every day of your life, and your life won’t suddenly have more meaning or importance once you’re married. So it’s better to focus on the now and prepare for the future, without allowing yourself to be consumed by it.
Am I Ranking Marriage Too High?
Our number one purpose here on earth is to serve God and honor Him with our lives. You can definitely do that in marriage! But, marriage isn’t the goal and God calls some people to serve Him in different ways.
Some girls idolize marriage. Unintentionally yet very obvious when it happens. When you want to get married more than you want to serve the Lord, that’s when wedding planning and dress choosing has gone too far.
A Wedding Should Be Planned By Two People! : D
Planning an event that isn’t going to happen anytime soon is like packing for a vacation months before it would happen. It doesn’t serve a lot of purpose.
When you get engaged to be married, planning your wedding with your fiancée should be a lot of fun. You can find ways to incorporate BOTH of your preferences, instead of hoping for whatever you planned years ago. If you already have everything just so in your mind, you may not be very open to compromising with your husband-to-be!
I guess that wraps this post up. If you’re young and single and have future wedding boards on Pinterest, I’m not going to tell you it’s wrong. That’s between you and the Lord! I hope this post was helpful for you in some way, and that you have a blessed day!