Hey guys! So today I have a lot of things running through my mind, and I’m going to try my best to form them into coherent thoughts.
A few days ago I was on Facebook and I found an article titled, Men Prefer Debt-free Virgins Without Tattoos.
Let me tell you guys, it was interesting. I wasn’t planning to write about it on here, but then I saw one of my favorite YouTubers, Katie Emmerson, address it in her most recent video. I loved a lot of the points she made, and so here I am, sharing my thoughts as well.
Before I jump into the actual content of the article, let’s look at the title. Men Prefer Debt-free Virgins Without Tattoos.
I see so many problems with this.
First of all, we are here to serve the Lord. Putting the emphasis on “what a man prefers” is putting men on a pedestal where they don’t belong.
Pleasing men shouldn’t be our goal. Are we followers of all men in general? No, we are followers of God and those in proper authority over us. (Not potential boyfriends.)
Just the mindset of “pleasing a man” is what gets so many girls into trouble. When you take the focus off of first pleasing a perfect, holy God and place it onto pleasing an imperfect, sinful man… this is dangerous and harmful.
Second, I am not looking to be “what a man prefers.” I don’t think any of us should! Also, how can one Christian lady vouch for all the men in the world? We could even narrow it down to Christian men and I still don’t see the accuracy of her statement. Also, why should we, as daughters of the Most High King, be looking to men to determine what kind of person we’re going to be?
No… we shouldn’t. This is about being a servant of God. Not a more attractive marriage candidate.
Third, Jesus tells us to come to HIM with our sins and He will wash us clean. Once we are sanctified in the Lord, He no longer sees a dirty, blemished sinner. We become His precious children! We are redeemed from our past. Redeemed. That means that He doesn’t hold our past against us.
Saying that your past or someone else’s is unforgivable is saying that you don’t believe in a perfect Savior.
What kind of message does it give to say that if you have debt, tattoos, or lost virginity, then you are not as good as the ones who don’t?
This totally seems like self-righteous Christianity here. God does not “rank” sin on a table of good and bad. You are not “more holy” in the eyes of God based on your actions. He looks at ALL of us as sinners washed by the blood of His Son.
Also, what if someone lost their virginity not by their choice?
Sexual assault happens all the time, and by saying that you’re less desirable to a man if this happened to you is so damaging.
I cannot imagine the personal turmoil a woman goes through in this situation, and then saying that they basically lost some (or all) of their worth…. wow. Just wow.
Ladies, this is a lie.
We serve a God of redemption. Do not look to a supposedly Christian article to define your worth. If a godly man doesn’t want you because you don’t meet the criteria of “debt-free virgin without tattoos,” it’s his loss.
Godly Christian men should prefer a woman who loves Jesus and serves Him now with her whole heart.
The past? She has been forgiven and set free.
In closing, your past doesn’t define you.
Once you are redeemed in Jesus, that is that. He says that He remembers your sin no more. That is the truth we should cling to.
I know there’s more that could be said on this subject, but I’m going to leave it at this for now. Thanks for visiting and have a wonderful day!